Johanna Stamps, a licensed grief counselor, talks about how we have to acknowledge grief and mourn in order to continue to move towards God’s vision for our life. Many items can be lost such as a job, pets, friendships, and marriages. As men, we need to take time and space to let our brain catch up to the event that has happened. Johanna shares her 7 steps included below and talks about the power of writing a closure letter on the grief you are going through. How to connect with Johanna:johannastamps.com804 944 [email protected] Men’s Alliance | How Great Men Grieve “If you loved it, and lost it, then grieve it” Grief is like an epic hike through a desolate land. 7 Steps of the Journey: 1. TRAILHEAD: AT THE BEGINNING OF THE JOURNEY a. Set the intention to heal, to integrate b. Look for a sign you are grieving: Cognitive, Affective, Physical, Spiritual c. You ONLY work where grief is coming up, that’s the beginning d. Feel the pain (No pain, No gain)... It brings healing 2. LOOK AT THE MAP (Pssst... it’s a magical map) a. The magical map only appears as you walk forward in your grief b. It’s completely unique to you (circumstance, personality, etc.) c. Dispel misconceptions (don’t look for stages) 3. BEGIN WALKING a. Small doses as it comes up b. One thing at a time c. We cannot grieve all at one time. We wouldn’t be able to take it! d. Be creative... example: recognizing important dates (or your body will tell you) 4. GATHER WITH OTHERS - DON’T GRIEVE IN ISOLATION a. Grieving is internal - Mourning is your external or public experience of grief b. ESSENTIAL - speak about the experience of the loss, memories, etc. c. Moves from the head to the heart (READ THIS AGAIN!!!) d. Look for the 1⁄3 who are good with grief (most likely someone who has dealt with their own grief) 5. STOP FOR REST a. Sustenance for your epic journey b. Maybe learn to rest for the first time 6. EXERCISE JOY AND PAIN MUSCLE a. Like any normal ruck or hike there is joy with the pain b. Practice this often when you are grieving 7. GET TO THE LOOKOUT a. Reflect on how far you have come (when you look at the loss with less pain) b. See parts of yourself that are becoming whole again - integrating the loss c. This is OFTEN understanding who you are (e.g. identity) Sponsor: Tom 'Doc' Love CFP®, CRPC®, CRPS® [email protected] Craig Heah. [email protected] https://www.themainstreetgroup.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
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Listen to full episodeBerek ‘Next’ Dostie shares about his warfare with intrusive thoughts and his decision to share this struggle openly with his tribe. When we are doing kingdom work we will be attacked, but in Men’s Alliance we do not struggle alone. Learn More: National Suicide Hotline: 988 Use the ACE method: Ask - Ask questions to determine how they are doing Care - Demonstrate that you care about their situation Escort - Stay with the person until they get help Sponsor: Hawkins Health and Fitness Nick 'Coach' Hawkins Find out more: 804-638-1386 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
Listen to full episodeTy "Savage" Madden shares leadership lessons from Band of Brothers that can make us all better husbands and fathers. Learn More: Band of Brothers series trailer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKRBAFlN5ww Sponsor: Chris 'Coop' Norwood w/ Towne Bank Mortgage Phone: 804-439-3206 https://townebankmortgage.com/officers/chris-norwood/ Support MA's Mission - https://www.mensalliancetribe.com/support --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
Listen to full episodeIf it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it's your job to eat two frogs, it's best to eat the biggest and ugliest one first. - Mark Twain What is the Frog you need to Eat first thing in the morning to move your life closer to God or family? Life is not about who completes the most maintenance tasks. What is important is seldom urgent, and what is urgent is seldom important. - Dwight D. Eisenhower --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
Listen to full episodeTraditions are not only important, they are essential. What traditions are you creating for your family? Traditions help to make your family have a unique identity that is different from other families. Traditions contribute to your legacy. It takes some leadership. But guess what. You can rise to the occasion! You can be the leader that God called you to be and create traditions that your family will cherish and talk about for years to come. Make it yours! Merry Christmas, men! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
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